Nine out of 10 women interviewed in-depth about their views said they thought one night stands were immoral.

The researchers investigating female attitudes to sex and sexuality found most women had more traditional views of casual sex than they expected.

The results of the Sheffield team's study of 46 women is presented at a psychology conference on Friday.

They found only 10% of the women aged 23 to 83 who were interviewed at length thought "no strings" sex was acceptable.

Oh, now you believe me? Forget that God (in the Bible) has been saying it all along. No-o-o-o, but let some group of women (a majority, no less), who have experienced the pain and emptiness first hand that these things leave and now you go, "Hm, isn't that interesting?" Not convinced? Let's press on:

They found that although participants thought one-night stands were immoral, they did not condemn women for having them as many of them had indulged themselves.

But there was a view that those that did had "something lacking in their lives".

Look at that! There it is: had something lacking in their lives! You read it...right there in black and white. Well, sort of an off-yellowish color and brown, but nevertheless, you saw it. That's it! They understood they had something lacking in their lives. You know what they're talking about, don't you? We've all felt it. No, we don't admit it and we've gotten very good at surpessing it, but it's there...come on...it's there, isn't it?

What is it, you ask? I'll tell you. God. There, I said it. Yes, it's God. ("Oh, great, here comes the preaching.") Well, yeah, maybe, but it's my blog and I'll preach if I want to. Not really, I'm not going to preach, but I am going to put it in your face that it is God. We all search for everything that will fill that same void that those women are talking about: power, money, sex...whatever we hear will take care of it. But you know what? It doesn't. Why? It was never meant to. When you and I were designed and created by God (you didn't really think we crawled out of primordial soup, did you? Really? Nah, I didn't think so), we were made in such a way that only one thing would satisfy...one thing only. You guessed it...the Designer, Himself. After all, think about it. if you had created something as cool as a human, wouldn't you make it so that the only thing that would satisfy it was yourself? Sure, I know I would. So, why the surpise when all this other stuff doesn't do the trick? There's only one thing that gets it...Christ alone.

Let's read a little more:

[Dr Sharron Hinchcliff] said the results did not fit in with images of today's independent woman who can go out and get sexual fulfilment without the ties of a relationship.

She told the BBC News website: "Women positioned sex very much in the context of an intimate relationship.

"But when they talked about casual sex they didn't give those reasons.

"Rather it was because they were looking for something - looking for love or because they had got drunk or were high on drugs.

"There was a real sense that they were out of control."

She added: "Sex is an emotional experience for women so how could they have sex without being emotionally involved?"

Women get it even when they don't get what they got. Follow? They understand that intimacy is about relationship; connecting. That's exactly the way God intended. We are created in His image. He is about intimacy and connecting. We want what He wants. We're wired that way. When we don't establish lasting relationships built on commitment with one person for a lifetime and settle for just sleeping around, we're not only cheating ourselves of that attachment, we're literally killing ourselves...we're short-circuiting our wiring. Ka-boom.

Now, will having this information change society? Probably not (though it could change you). Instead, those trying to sell us a bill of goods that says the more sex with the most partners in the most promiscuous ways is where its at will just try new tactics. Like this:

Dr Tuppy Owens, of the Sexual Freedom Coalition, said casual sex could be an empty experience if there was no mental connection.

Dr Owens added: "However, if you go out wondering what might happen, ready to give as well as receive, you might have the most wonderful adventure."

Mental connection. Most wonderful adventure. No, the most wonderful adventure is living with your wife (or husband) and being able to trust her explicitly because of her commitment to Christ first and then me second; knowing that she's not going to make the circuit sleeping with every guy that looks better than me when I'm not around and that as long as we live we're going to make this journey through life together because neither of us believes in divorce. Can you say that? Our commitment is solid because our faith in Christ is solid. Period.

And the rest? Here's the end of the story:

The results of the research appear to clash with the results of a national survey in 2000 which found Britons are more promiscuous than ever before.

The National Survey of Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyles 2000 (Natsal 2000) found that men and women have more sexual partners than they did 10 years ago and are more likely to be unfaithful.

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